The question I loathe whenever people found out that I was losing pregnancies, and especially after I lost my final pregnancy in March of 2025. After dealing with infertility for years, that question had run through my mind on more than multiple occasions and it was part of my Roman Empire.

My question now is, why is #grief trending? Why such a sudden influx of grief accounts that are growing so rapidly? Maybe it’s because we’ve exposed a weakness in our chain, maybe we aren’t addressing the needs of the people. Are grief-fluencers filling a gap left by traditional support systems and communities?

If you aren’t familiar with my grief journey, I feel the need to share how deeply grief and joy, death and life, are woven into my story. It is no coincidence, I think, that I went on to become the Editor-in-Chief of a grief magazine built entirely around finding joy after loss. I didn’t choose that mission from a place of theory. I chose it because I lived it — and I am still living it.

I looked out at the stadium — hundreds, if not thousands, of people packed in with balloons, flowers, and a buzz of collective pride — and I saw something I had never noticed before. I worked at a school with a large population of immigrant families, and for many, this was the first person in their family to graduate high school, the first to prepare to attend college. I had always seen the joy. That day, I saw the grief woven inside it.

As Mother’s Day approaches, the world fills with messages of celebration—gratitude, flowers, brunch reservations, and reflections on what it means to be celebrated as a mother and to be loved by a mother.

For many… that lands beautifully.
For many others… it doesn’t.

We’re trying to build a bridge. But grief has taught me something different. No …you don’t. And even more surprisingly sometimes, neither do I.

My dead ends were chopped off. A new connection was made. All while wearing a cape. Turns out grief and split ends have something in common: you can only ignore them for so long before someone has to help you cut through them.

At Get Griefy, our Sports Grief Expert, Emilia Parga, breaks down why these tremendous athletic feats — while inspiring — can also be deeply grief-filled for those who don’t walk away with the win.

I had over a year to slowly detach myself from the home—a solid “anticipatory grief,” if you will. But suddenly it was the week before the move. Each day I came home from work, more of the house was packed into mighty cardboard boxes. Our home became a maze of bubble wrap and memories.

Grief is like treading water, and Erin’s been treading water for the past 12 years. A mother’s raw and honest retell of child loss, care giving, and getting by.

Recently, our community has seen increased immigration enforcement activity, leaving many students worried or grieving after a loved one’s detention or deportation.

Though not the same as death, this is a significant loss that can affect a student’s sense of safety and stability. As educators and caring adults, we play an important role in helping them feel supported and connected.

When it comes to grief, there are so many unspoken rules and stereotypes about how we’re supposed to mourn. One of the biggest? That visiting the cemetery is the most “appropriate” or “respectful” way to honor someone who has died. But what happens when the cemetery doesn’t bring peace, but instead pain, guilt, or even resentment?

Dating after loss. Even typing that feels strange, right? It’s one of the most misunderstood, most opinionated topics out there. Everyone seems to have an idea of what’s “right” or “wrong” for the grieving heart — except, often, the griever themselves.

The truth? Society expects grief to be neat, tidy, and linear. If you’re too sad, they worry. If you’re too happy, they worry. Either way, they want to tuck you into a neat little bubble — not to protect you, but because they think they know best (even when they’ve never lost anyone themselves).

But grief doesn’t play by their rules. And neither does love.

When people dump judgments onto public grief, it doesn’t just sting the person in the spotlight (and let’s be real, Erika probably isn’t scrolling the comments). It hurts everyone else who’s grieving quietly in the shadows.